Friends Centered – You identify yourself with a group of friends. Although friends are important they should never become the center of your life. Why? Friends can be fickle, they may ask you to take part in things that are good for them but could be bad for you.
Stuff Centered - You identify yourself with what you have. We live in a material world, and it is nice to have the goodies. Our folks work hard to accomplish their goals and provide the best living for you. Okay, fine and dandy, but you are unhappy, and so you think the answer is more stuff; clothes, video games, and gadgets, and so whip out the credit card and let the healing begin, right? What do you think?
Sports Centered – You build your identity around your athletic prowess. You are great, or so you’ve been told. Forget that, let’s say you are great, and you are a sports natural and succeed wherever you try…and then you get hurt. Since you have spent so much time identifying yourself with sports you are now lost, depressed and not sure what to do next. You’ve lost your center, your focus for your life.
Self Centered - You see everything that happens in the world with how it affects you first and everybody else second.
What should be at the Center of your Life?
Principle Centered – What is it?
An inside-out approach...
Principles are the forces that guide our lives, and they can’t be changed, get hurt, or move away, they are the natural laws of the universe. You know them, but maybe you have not thought of them for a while or at least appreciated the power they hold.
Remember these ‘Golden Oldies?’
‘Honesty is the best policy’
‘Right and wrong’
‘To thine own self be true’
‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.’
‘Always where clean underwear when you go out in case you get into an accident…’
Honesty is a principle.
Service is a principle.
Respect is a principle.
Hard work is a principle.
When we act through principle we change the way we live our lives.
We move from reacting to people places and things, to being pro-active, which means we initiate action, taking charge of our lives.
In short, we gain control of a part of our lives.
What can we truly control?
Only one thing; how we respond to what happens to us.
We can’t control our past mistakes, other people’s opinions, the weather, or the price of gas, but we can control our response through the choices we make from day to day. It is our choices that give us control in our lives.
How much time have you wasted worrying about things that are outside your control? If you are like most people, then probably a lot!
Mental Self Defense: You may know about physical self defense and how to handle yourself against an attacker, but have you thought about a personal protection system of a different kind?
Mental self defense is far more powerful and you don’t need to be attacked to use it!
Self-awareness: I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions.
Conscience: I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong.
Imagination: I can envision new possibilities.
Will-power: I have the power to choose, and I choose to do what is right over what is popular.
1. Take action – the next time you are at a party or social event and you don’t know anybody, don’t just sit there waiting – take action - get off the wall, walk up and introduce yourself to someone.
2. List 3 principles that describe you. (honest, hard working, etc)
3. Watch you language. Anytime you find yourself criticizing, condemning, or complaining about something in your life, stop and remember that you are reacting rather than initiating.
4. What is the biggest thing outside your control that you worry about? Weather? Price of gas? Global warming?
5. What are your most unhealthy habits?